Positively Chic: 07/21/14

Remembering the Chief

Not a day goes by that I don’t miss my mom (a.k.a. Chief). She lost her battle to breast cancer eleven years ago today. Some days it feels like yesterday that she left us; other days it feels like decades.

My mother taught me so many valuable lessons in life. The grace and elegance she showed in everything she did resonates with me today.

I think about the little moments we had together, sharing laughs and knowing looks. It makes me smile.

I am so thankful for my mother and proud of the true lady she was in our lives.

In one of our last conversations, she said “I so wanted to see how your life turned out.” In my heart, I think she can.

If your mother is still with you, call her now and tell her how much you cherish her and all the things she has done, and continues to do, for you today.

XXO P

Fashion Advice from Mom:

It’s always better to be overdressed than underdressed.
If you've ever entered a room and immediately felt underdressed, chances are you don't want to repeat that feeling…ever…ever again.

Never buy anything on sale that you wouldn’t buy at full price.
If you didn't like it at full price, why is it so appealing on sale? I think it's just the desire to "find a deal." If you don't really like it…will you wear it? It doesn't matter that it originally cost $498 and you can score it for $14.99! It's still $14.99 wasted if you're not going to wear it. I always think of three things I already own that I can wear with a new piece. If I can't think of three ways to style the new piece, I don't buy it (usually).

You always feel better in something new.

Note: This piece of advice probably led to my shopaholic tendencies.

You know what I mean. Enough said.

Always dress like a lady.

You can never go wrong dressing like a lady. This doesn't mean you have to be prim and proper (i.e., stiff). It just means, look elegant and leave a little to the imagination. You can even incorporate "edgier" elements into your look and still look classic.

Olivia Palermo, one of my current day fashion icons, is a role model for lady-like dressing. She still looks elegant, even when rocking a biker jacket, jean cut-offs, or leather shorts. Look how she puts with these edgier, more casual pieces with dressier ones (e.g., maxi skirt, longer length car coat, fitted blazer, etc.). They totally elevate the more casual pieces to a new (higher) level.

Study your fashion icon and see the different ways she incorporates different looks into her style.

Invest in a few quality pieces rather than many lesser quality pieces.
My mother built her entire wardrobe on this premise. She always invested in a few quality pieces each season instead of cramming her closet with many lesser quality, less expensive pieces. I try to do the same thing. I have pieces in my closet that I've had for years. Why? Because they are a classic style and a higher quality to stand the test of time and wear.

Timeless pieces are just that: Pieces that you should be able to wear for years with proper care. Think classic camel colored coat, fitted black jacket…you get the idea. Those trendier pieces (and you know what I'm talking about) come and go each season. Don't watch them leave with all your money.

Fashion Advice from Someone Else I Admire:

My Husband

Avoid the "Clark Griswald" syndrome. My husband, who loves to vacation, constantly reminds me that it's not always good to "do as the Romans do" -- even when in Rome! He has a point.